I wanted to be able to fully share my faith with my spouse, but this expectation was now up in the air. You are looking for evidence that a. So yea, I blame residency for his general 'unavailability', and I would assume that is the case with your guy too. I'm sorry this was so longwinded and not really an answer to your questions. I'm so sick of waiting around every night and weekend to see if he will have a minute for me. I am a nurse and have been for 10 years. We lived about miles apart for the first 2 years. Blogroll By Common Consent C. In many ways, she was everything that I ever wanted in a spouse, but in other ways she was not what I ever expected.
He blames this on his hours for residency, and to be fair they are really long and insane. Is he willing to, nay, interested. That's what love is, right. I am talking to a Surgeon from US, from an equally good college, for a possible marriage. I hate that it's all on his terms. Thank you for pointing this out. The way he wanted to live his life, the family he wanted to have, the wife he dreamt of- matched the type of person I longed for. Again, though the evolving times may have brought about a relaxation in this rule, it is still followed by many youngsters. There is still a chance you can work out your differences, but it will require major concessions on both sides.
It is an act of faith. Take issues as they arise, rather than throwing away what could be a good experience for you and her based off of what might happen. Due to their religious teachings, Mormons do not smoke, drink alcohol or caffeinated "hot drinks" coffee or tea or do drugs. Here are a few questions you could ask her. After a certain point "support" stops being supportive and turns into enabling - enabling of his depression, his anxiety, his reluctance to reflect deeply on who he is and what he wants out of life, and worst of all, my "support" ensures his continuation into a career that will not ultimately make him or me happy. Racial differences can be very trivialвthey really didn't come up much for my parents, for exampleвand are basically false differences. Life is too short. I don't mean to be rude, but she's not gonna give up her "nonsense".
Controlling Behavior in Relationships. At best they just try to include you in the community, and at worst you are constantly told that you'll be welcome "when you're ready. Until you can believe someone else's beliefs are reasonable, you will not be able to treat them with the respect they deserve. Even Mormon girls who marry non-Mormons want great dads for their kids, and they are oriented to having kids, sometimes many kids. Helpful way to learn the facts in a fast and funny format.