Men search the world for women that they can stand to be around with long-term. If she is still Mormon and you are not, she will always secretly hope that you convert, just like you will always secretly hope she leaves the church. We need to believe fully and then we make choices, not the other way around. My 2 younger children are entering middle school soon. Having seen many examples of the disaster it becomes when a member spouse pushes, coerces, ultimatums the non-member spouse into being baptized, I have very assiduously steered clear of those methods from the start. We learn sooooooo much from each other. The importance of tithing your money. The reality is that while God gave us a gospel of love and stands always ready to give us a helping hand, his mercy will not rob his justice.
I am getting increasingly more resentful of the times I think he can choose us instead of residency. Also, love how you describe how God has our backs and we can actually act on the notion of things hoped for that are not seen instead of the quaint pseudo idea that all things are known in advance, step by step, and lead to mortal and eternal bliss. I told her that I want to only be friends. And your needs essentially have to be silenced a lot of the times. I know it is really hard for you and I'm sure it is hard for him too. By all means, I encourage you to try having those discussions and to make a mental note of when you would choose to walk away instead. For girls, being the right age for marriage usually means graduating high school, if not later. You would be able to force her to confront the facts without feeling threatened. My daughter thinks it's funny that she's known her SO 4 years - not ready for marriage.
And if he loves you as much as you love him. Do you work Easter, the day after your baby is born, weekends, nights. These insane hours are wearing on me and I fear what has happened to so many I know will start to happen to us. He hadn't realized it was the same weekend as my birthday, or even that it was a big birthday - 30. There's a reason so many Utahns are on anti depressants and anti anxiety meds.