She started crying when I explained this to her. LDS theology heavily promotes the idea that marriage and family are an important source of happiness in this life, not just the next. If you remain active, Church service is very demanding of our lives в not a Sunday thing.
Mormons think when you die, based on if you were a good person cough cough atheists you go to spirit "paradise" where they will teach you the gospel. A forum for ex-mormons and others who have been affected by mormonism to share news, commentary, and comedy about the Mormon church. If this happens, it might click something in her mind that says that what she experienced was pleasurable and she would like to have it again. But the idea of marrying my husband felt right from almost the get-go and, my patriarchal blessing made so much more sense. I was not moving with him until there was a promise and it would still take me a few months to find a job and relocate. The Church does not recognize homosexual marriage, and does not condone sexual activity outside of marriage.
What this guy needs is support and understanding Maybe you didn't intend it this way, but it sounds like you're assuming I'm not already giving him the benefit of the doubt, space, support, and understanding. We've only been dating for a short time. If you are a believer and are willing to go, then well and good. Finding a person with whom your wavelength matches, and around whom you feel you can just be yourself, talk about anything, and not be worried about being judged, is not as easy as the romantic movies and TV soaps make it out to be. We still went on dates when we could, but it became less and less often. But his absence in the spiritual side of my life, and that of my mother, was very hard. Don't forget too that IF you are successful in turning the lights on and deconverting her, the family would resent you the rest of their lives.
She has to come to the realization that the church may not be infallible, it can't be forced on her or proven to her. Of course we are talking abt kids and marriage all the time. It would behoove you in this situation to act like a kid yourself. She encourages me to develop my skills and talents, and provides an example in several of those areas.