Drives me a bit crazy. But I also know that He loves us so much that He would never take away our ability to choose for ourselves. Is it wrong to make those types of sacrifices. After residency, depending on what specialty they do, there will be a separate set of rules of how they have to give their time oncall, early surgery times, working holidays etc. I'm sorry this was so longwinded and not really an answer to your questions. The woman provides advice and counsel but doesn't preside. The church will be in your bedroom, finances, and all your decisions. I knew going into this it would be difficult, so I've braced myself, but I'd be lying if I didn't say there's a lot of disappointment that comes along with the relationship.
This can make it harder for you two to do things together. I'm not saying you shouldn't pursue the relationship, but I'd only recommend marrying her if she leaves the church because she discovers it's not true. I have recently seen too much of these false promises that people use to make others feel good. My wife and her family are a good example of this. I am happy and established successful comp. I think love and caring can be more important. I know this post is kind of all over the place but I had to get it out I Here's to hoping that this coming weekend he isn't on call, doesn't have to fill in, doesn't have a million charts to finish, and doesn't have any crazy medical emergencies!!. I've seen it happen all the time. Hi, I am not a doctor's wife. In fact, your GF is probably one of the countless Mormon women who get married only to find out they have zero sex drive because of what they learned growing up.
It CAN work, to be frank. Break up with her. By those standards, I was a failure, my husband wasn't "good enough" - and my daughter had ambitious real goals that required a lot of time and effort.
The city we will be living in for his residency is expensive as he is getting into a wonderful program. I would need to ask my husband again. I love him more than anything, but lately, the lack of real time together and the stress of his work impacting how I am made to feel like I'm on eggshells when we do get together almost seems like to much to bear. We try to make this place a little better than we found it. Just know that she has been indoctrinated to believe that she wont reach the highest level of heaven if she isn't married in a Mormon temple to another Mormon. Right now she won't even watch a movie.