And no I would not pressure them to convert but as a Latter-day Saint I would pray for them to convert as I do for many people I know and love. And right at that moment when I'm about to tell him this, and give him some kind of ultimatum, I hesitate. Like many Docotors wives, Our husbands have a demanding career. I also think that if marriage outside the covenant is a sin, it is not so grave as to be unforgivable. This means first being clear that you want to go on a date. There is no way this will work out. If you are worries about her or her family trying to convert you, be honest. Mormonism is a religion that's as manipulative as it is comforting.
Having seen many examples of the disaster it becomes when a member spouse pushes, coerces, ultimatums the non-member spouse into being baptized, I have very assiduously steered clear of those methods from the start. This means that she will probably be dating others at the same time as you. Discover the joys of a non-sexual relationship and find sincere ways to show affection without sex. After two years of being together with very few problems, it ended within 30 minutes of having "The Talk" about my future religiosity. The importance of modesty. Well, maybe not a total disaster, that is a bit exaggerated.
But now, in addition to being a primary spouse, I'm also the primary parent. So do you just never give anything back to SOs in terms of time or small gestures. I just found your blog. She sacrificed two years of her life to convert people to the religion. Eventually it turned into a sour argument. It isn't money that he is just throwing around on useless things, its for dinner movies normal date stuff that people do over a course of a month and we cram into one weekend. I was sure I was just over sensitive until I read your posts. Thirty years ago I converted a guy and then dumped him for a returned missionary from an established LDS family. Honestly, it isn't her fault. I fully understand the fact that I need to do those things so I can accomplish my dream.
So if we only have a few hours of time to spend together one night a week, sometimes we will have plans to watch a movie but then things quickly turn into sex and before we know it the night is over. I am so happy about 'starting' our life together in a few months, but I feel like I am totally setting myself up for disappointment. Spending a lifetime single is not something most people would choose to do, but fear of being forever single should never be a deciding factor in entering a marriage, lest serious problems go unaddressed before serious commitments are made. If you do believe it fully, are you not really going to want him to make the conversion ultimately. The church will be in your bedroom, finances, and all your decisions. My dream in life as cliche as it sounds is to be happy, and to raise a family - be one of those home mums who goes to school meetings, and award nights, and bakes cakes for their kids school fares. The first key question to as is: If the answer is yes then the relationship sounds like it's doomed. Welcome to TwoXChromosomes, a subreddit for both serious and silly content, and intended for women's perspectives.