I suggest you develop a busy calender so you'll be occupied because you'll get dizzy thinking in circles. At least not until they're I reserve the right to refute any teaching that I see as harmful. We agree on honesty and kindness, it doesn't matter what inspires us to pursue that. Almost everything is complicated. When you said that the doctor spouse sacrifices for their patients and their family sacrifices for the doctor's career, it really described my situation. Several of the apostles have grown up in part member homes. If everything she is taught is correct and the Mormon church is "true" she should be able to research any anti-Mormon books or movies and prove their criticisms are lies. I've never understood that bit of the LDS culture. I'm going to disagree with what some of the people have said.
As time has gone by I realized that the opinons of others is not important to me and oddly enough those who did not originally approve have had their hearts and minds changed by the love my husband shows me, our daughter, and the members of my family. But, as someone posted earlier we did not marry a physician completely for the status and money, we also expect as should any wife love and respect. She won't look at anything "anti-mormon" but if it's on LDS. We have been married a mere 3. What she taught is different from what the essays admit happened. I wish I know things better and would have taken a different path in life.
Keep things going and see what happens. Never seen it happen. I intend to spend some quality time in the temple, with my bishop, and with close family and friends as I think and pray my way through this decision, but I would also value your insights into this. Also not one Nickel will be tithed out of any shared funds. And they manage to get the time for it.
I I must also say that some of them truly do have affairs even wit the best of spouses. If she is as real deal as you say she is, she believes this also. If you do believe it fully, are you not really going to want him to make the conversion ultimately. Is he willing to, nay, interested. My relationship is the same way. My children started a new school this year and up until last week, my husband couldn't have told you what time they started or where to drop them off. Mormonism isn't a free ticket to heaven. I married someone that wasn't of my faith and it worked great. He later converted to her faith and was called to be a temple sealer.